Why Do We Always Get It Wrong?


We totally LOVE hanging out with fun people.

Last week we were at an amazing event in Arizona - totally energizing hanging out with super smart, action oriented folk.

During the breaks and at the evening dinners we started sharing stories of how we started and all the mistakes we made.

This lead to Nick and myself going over an entire list of things that we've done wrong.

It turns out we've done A LOT wrong... but luckily we've done just enough right to make our investments and business decisions pay off.

This got me thinking about how our "first decision" is often the wrong one... in almost everything we do.

I'm not talking about your "gut instinct" which is usually right.

I'm talking about the actual thing you ultimately decide is right with your "thinking brain".

It's almost as if "common wisdom" is very bad.

Very, very bad.

For example,

You know how when you're beat down and burnt out the standard advice is often...

"You need to exercise more! You need an outlet to burn off your stress!"

In my life I've learned it's the exact opposite.

Although I love hitting the Crossfit Gym multiple times a week - and I think it's changed my life - I've learned that during these times I don't actually need to exercise, in fact, I need to do the opposite.

I need to get more sleep.

Getting a few nights of 7 hours sleep in a row seems to recharge me more than anything in the world.

I focus better, exercise better, eat better.

Life is just better when I'm properly rested.

(Side Note:  I love the Crossfit thing and highly encourage any A-Type personalities reading this to give it a try... here's our place).

Sticking with the exercise theme...

You know how when you want to lose weight you get similar advice?

"Hit the gym FATSO!"

Well after meticulously weighing myself for over six months after starting the gym I learned something.

I went from 203 pounds to 195 pounds after hitting the gym pretty hard five times a weeks for three months.

I gained muscle and definitely felt stronger.

But then a great trainer told me that what you eat makes up 80% of your body type.

So I experimented with what I ate and dropped from 195 pounds to 180 pounds losing a pound a week - with less exercise!

I then got a nasty little Achilles injury that sidelined me for two months and during that time I hardly did anything - and my weight stayed off because of my diet.

I literally did not gain a single pound.


For me, that was a big revelation.

Now when I see people running on a treadmill for sixty minutes a day in an attempt to lose weight I cringe.  (For the record, I did that myself for quite a while.)

This theme carries on to a lot of things in my life.

For example,

You know when you're thinking of starting your own business you rush out and design a logo and get 500 business cards?

Nick and I have done that with multiple business ideas.

Well, that idea sucks.

You end up with a box of business cards and pretty much nothing else.

We once had a "branding consultant" tell us that we needed better branding to grow our business.

Thankfully we ignored him.

He was wrong too.

It turns out without a way to generate phone calls into your business there's not much of a business at all.

There was a time when I wanted to be a highly paid Oracle Database Administrator.

So I thought I should get all the fancy IT designations that I could add to my resume.

Years later I learned that the real money in Oracle Database stuff wasn't actually managing the databases... it was in selling them.

Again, my first idea was wrong.

Here's another example of "wrong thinking":

When we first started Rock Star Real Estate we thought we shouldn't actually share good information.

We need to "hold the good stuff back" and save it for our very best clients.

Thankfully we're learned that's a load of hogwash.

We should share and give and teach and give some more and that's how you grow you business.

We should be a conduit of good ideas, thought provoking statements and useful information.

That's what we all need.

And the more we help people get what they want the more we get what we want.


Thankfully we learned that one pretty quickly and it was in our nature to operate in this way.

Here's something else we've learned...

Nick and I seem to make the most "wrong" decisions in life and in business when we're stressed out.

Or when we're coming from a place of fear.

I'll give you an example:

Several years ago a client ripped into me because he believed that I owed him some real estate leads.

He just blasted me because he felt he was entitled to them.

Now, way back then we didn't have many clients so we were super anxious about losing any.

My first idea was to agree with him and then work like a dog to try and satisfy him.

I didn't want to lose a client after all.

Even though I KNEW that I had done no wrong and that he was being unreasonable.

The next thing that happened was a game changer...

I gathered myself, calmed down, and fired him.

Told him to get lost.

That we didn't work with people who treated us that way.

Saynora baby!



Don't let the door hit ya on the way out!

And it felt amazing!!

Instead of spending the next few days emotionally destroyed I felt light and free.

My first thought of trying to appease him came from a place of fear.

I was scared to lose a client, when in fact cutting him off was the right decision.

Let's wrap this little rant up with real estate investing...

We would argue that the "standard advice" of trying to time the real estate market with your investments is flat out wrong.

But that's what is constantly shared, "Buy low, sell high!".

Very difficult and in fact, could cost you a lot of time.

Someone once told us that "You don't make money timing the market.  You make money with 'time-in' the market".

Too many beginner investors wait for the perfect time.

When the market is hot they don't buy.

When the market is down they're too scared to buy.

We've learned that if you find a property that produces positive cash flow you might as well grab it.

Because the big money, in real estate, comes not form the monthly cash flow ... but from the equity you build over years of ownership.

And the only way to gain lots of equity is to spend lots of time in the market - owning property.

No one explained that to us.

We may be the only ones that "get it wrong" at first, but we've now learned that "common sense" and "standard advice" is often the exact opposite of what we should be doing.

We now get a kick of running East when everyone else is running West.

Of turning left when everyone else is turning right.

Going against popular thinking is somehow really fun.

It's like you know a simple life strategy that no one else does.

Like you have special "insider information".

We'll leave you this week with this Earl Nightingale quote,

"With this in mind, here is a success formula that works even if you do not have success models to follow. Observe what most other people do, and do the opposite."


Until Next Time ... Your Life! Your Terms!


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0 comments on “Why Do We Always Get It Wrong?”

  1. great post! It plays right into a book I am reading right now by (Sir) Richard Branson; Like a Virgin - Secrets they Won't Teach You at Business School. One of the chapters is "the customer is always right...except when they're wrong" and talks about when to let a client go.
    I have faced much negativity from people I know but have gone ahead anyway (with Rockstar's support, of course!) and am soon to be the happy owner of two student rentals!
    Thanks for all the information you send my way - and your inspiring posts and workshops.

  2. Thanks so much for that Jen. This may sound cliche but we're 100% sincere about this ... you know the best part about what we do? It's getting to work with cool action oriented people like you! Your feedback means a lot, very much appreciated!

  3. Well...,this is like, I don't necessarily agree with what you're saying, but I do agree with what you're meaning to say!

    " You Can Do It if You Believe You Can!" (Napoleon Hill-The Law of Success), and you probably heard the saying, that told us to: "go with the flow", meaning to go with what you think is right, although it may be wrong but you wouldn't learn that lesson anywhere else, and similarly when we were told that, "money is the root of all evil", which actually translates to "For the love of money is a root of all kind of evil" in 1 Timothy 6:10 from Bible, so yeah I get it, this happens all the time to most of us.
    Got me thinking, nice post, thanks!

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